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Auntie Linda come to visit us from holland after 16 yrs apart…That’s made me come to surabaya for seeing her and she came with her after divorced husband, gustav.

I remember what happenned in my big familly when auntie Linda tell us she is divorced and married to gustav, well my familly is raised in a very christian norm which they are against divorce or other things…that time my Oma against auntie linda’s decission and the others familly stand behind her…but for me myself, I do appreciate and respect her decission with her life, coz everything will be different when u see it as insider and the insider is ourself.Other people can give us their opinion but it’s not obligation at all for us to obey it….it’s our life and good and bad is not depend on norm or value or people’s opinion but good and bad is our decission…and afterall value of good and bad is only human preception….

When we have problems nobody can see our problem as good as ourself, coz we knew who we are and what is good for us, other people just look the problem and sollution based on their value or norm in the soociety, but they are not knowing what good for us. That’s what exactlly happenned to my familly at that time….

I can understand what in my oma’s mind at that time….my Opa is a priest and she is worry about other people’s opinion, but once again she is not seeing the problem with empathy, even herself influance and provocate with people’s thought and value and norm in the society…. the question is we are belong to societty or we have our life for ourself…why should we live for others requirement…why can’t we jut being ourself

Time pass, the silence between my auntie and my oma is colder but anyhow we are still familly. The rock will melt with the water, Hate and shame cover with love…and finally she came and we are welcome her and gustav with the love and spirit as Van de weg, Auntie linda’s decission for her life is her responsible and us as familly should respect it, and no matter what happenned she is stil familly and always be…..

differences will always exist but how we see the differences as a gift from creature will lead us to the improvement quality of our life…

After 16 yrs, and me myself away in manado for 6 yrs, my elder brother in ambon and marriend and got a daughter, my cousins are busy with their life and they are change…they achieve what their life lead them there…and it gives a different kind of person from my memory about them, and I am sure on the other hand…but what never change is we are familly…we are all still van de weg and the bound is tighter with the differences.

NB : We love Gustav, wellcome ….

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